Running in circles....

I was just wondering what happens when we fall for someone? Do we go to any lengths to love them, to be loved by them or to be accepted by his/her people? Do we change ourselves ? More importantly do we realize that we are changing ourselves? Are we still "US"? Enough with the questions, my own experience tells me,  YES! OF COURSE WE CHANGE OURSELVES! The only thing which determines the color of the flags for this change is whether we change our core values to fit in, to please, to be reciprocated to. I have been on sides, where I changed myself, to fit in, to be accepted, to be respected - killing parts of me which were precious.  I would love for us to decode our change... step by step....  We are who we are because of our choices, our perspective, our strengths, our weakness, a lot more is to do with our background and upbringing and of course the crap load of past trauma! With that backdrop, our first choice is choosing someone- that reflects our core values, what are...

 I have recently(like literally a couple of days since) started a routine which takes me for a morning walk in a small neighbourhood park, its size doesn't intimidate me and also the people who walk in are also familiar, softly. There I noticed a couple of kittens, a little grown-up maybe like 6-7 human years. They were sometimes together, sometimes apart, some times preying sometime playing and with every lap, i found them in completely different moods. But most importantly while talking to one of my cowalkers, i realized they had fixed homes they were served meals. So these twoplayful kittens were actually enjoying their leisure time, trying to hunt birds as stupidly possibly. But yet they had a safety at the back of their minds, a place where they will be fed anyways. And then it struck me, it's the best of both worlds, and they are teenagers learning the ways of the world, with a safe backdrop.  I wonder how many of us, are actually able to experience this. A lot of curtai...