Disagreement...Disappointment...Discomfort...Disdain...Dismay

Are any other permutations impossible for this chain of interpretations?

A very difficult yet frequently encountered event is that of a disagreement. A mere dissection would reveal the meaning of the word- a point where two viewpoints/ opinions/ choices do not hold hands. But since childhood, the first disagreement we encounter is with our parents who are the highest authority figures in our life then and will continue to be so ever since. This "disagreement" quickly gets confused with a bad, unpleasant action/ event, irrespective of the fact if it's voluntary or involuntary. Let's call it by a nickname of D, well this D then rapidly exponentially reduces our chances of any kind of approvals, fondness, or even extra chocolates. Approval hence turns out to be inversely proportional to the number of D we may have in any relationship. So that begins a new journey altogether of pretense, pain, and punishment. We pretend, to prevent this mathematical formula from destroying our lives. We "MUST/HAVE TO/SHOULD" agree.

Once we disagree, we are classified into groups, types, personalities based on what we fail to agree with. This exercise is deconstructive in its very essence. NO inclusive thoughts and no making space for different opinions. Hence our true self with its true nature, traits, views faces significant disagreement right from kindergarten to the workplace, from parents to children, from religion to science. Every disagreement is frowned upon by an immature majority and then peaks the game of blending in.

Once our pretense heightens, we find ourselves in a deeper mess, because now we come across a quote telling us to be "OURSELVES" whatever that is supposed to mean. We begin to become aware of what we had been doing for 2 decades and now we desire to magically undo it! But by now, neural networks have linked Ds to pain and suffering- triggered together. This rewiring is tougher than imagined, anticipated, or planned.

The only way to alleviate the pain is by deconstructing the entire argument, D and the pain.

We have to respect differences in opinions, actions, faiths, beliefs, bodies, hair, eyes and countless feelings which need to be accepted if not agreed to.

Stop the need for an agreement...approval...to reach...acceptance...accord...amity!

 This may show one of the infinite possibilities in our quantum world..

Ugly for some, Epitome of magical transformation, awakening and latent perseverance for others...

Agree to Disagree!
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