Happiness... do we really want it?

 I had, yet again, a significantly alarming thought- what if happiness was never our aim? Is it possible that we were meant to experience something else? We are actually supposed to chase something else? and Do we actually seek something other than, rather opposite to happiness?

Happiness is an emotion that I had felt frequently, rather on an everyday basis in my previous relationship, perhaps. However, I am at a loss for words or thoughts about what I was actually connected to in that time, what was I truly feeling and who/what can I attribute it to. I today in hindsight realize, interpret my boundless joy only to myself. I was happily playing the role I was playing, however, sadly it had nothing to do with my partner.

Happy moments rather leave a blank space in my mind when I see how they constructively molded me. Happiness is usually a selfish emotion in the day-to-day form we feel it. Happiness is all about our feelings, But true joy, BLISS usually is achieved, received, and gifted by connecting with fellow beings, animals, nature, or our purpose which may be of some help to someone else.

I somehow value the painful moments far more than the joyful ones. They have been the very foundation of my achievements. These moments allowed me to connect to beings in similar situations as I was. I learnt the art of listening, respecting the emotions of others, giving space to another being, compassion, compassion for myself, and sheer growth. Uncomfortable haunts, we dread it and we even wince, while dreaming about it. But pain, sorrow, and fear are the uncomfortable emotions that help us uncover, discover and create ourselves.

We get a single life, which we can remember very well(reincarnations/past lives we tend to forget or maybe they don't exist at all)- we are born to experience every possible emotion and chase none.

Our circumstances bring us any and every kind served on a platter but unexpected, uninvited, and unimagined.

In the end, the question I raised, is answered by the concept of obesity. If we had access to all of our favorite savory and sweet treats, well we blow out of proportion. However, when we receive a healthy balance of all that is growing or nurtured on earth, no such thing as obesity.

Selfish joys blind us and make us oblivious of all the people around us, clouding our judgment, bringing out the total disconnected jerk within us.

BLISS is sublime, unifying and full of gratitude, it is well connected to the universal web and behaves ina  oving fashion. Never boastful, never rude, always kind.

We crave bliss, kindness and growth in our lives.


Isn't it pure hope, a divine sign, an omen when we see this tiny but gorgeous flower right in the middle of nowhere, right in the middle of what our mind perceives as dry rough land?

Can this feeling be compared to seeing the same flower in a garden to which we did not tend?


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