Impermanence

 It's been a difficult weekend and something I couldn't have even imagined. My little kitten Blake became critically ill and passed away. 

It was an unbearable amount of pain and my friends and family helped me beyond imagination, expectations, and need.

But that brought to my notice how pain works? All that was going on in this life, my kittens screaming at the top of their lungs, clinging to me, and their insatiable hunger - I took it all for granted. I never for once could have imagined that it won't be the same always.

Actually speaking, no two moments are the same. The present moment needs to be cherished. Every bond is appreciated, reciprocated to its best, and strengthened as much as we can.

Impermanence: 

It's only a question of when and not if.

With this in the background, we can't just give up loving altogether. No that's not necessary, not possible, and neither good for us. We have to love, love hardest but as soon as the moment is over we have to let go.

Let go would mean never expecting this moment to return, recreate or repeat. Let go would also mean accepting this impermanence without resentment but with gratitude. It is unimaginable for me at the moment, but cherishing all the moments I had with Blake, I am only happy about the fact that I was 100 percent when with him. I will make mistakes, I am only human and so will he.

I am very grateful to Blake to come to me and accept me. For me, his tiny pink tongue, his clinging, climbing my leg, and standing on two legs to reach me, and his silent but loving behavior are forever etched in my heart. Nothing and no one can ever change that. I hope you bloom into this flower and rest in peace.

We love you. Always.

This is a stark event in the form of life or death, but some losses are more subtle. When a best friend moves on with life and the bond of trust, honesty and comfort is never the same. It is indeed painful, however it is essential for us to accept their new priorites. If we build up anger, resentment we will lose all the precious memories and moments we shared with one and another. We must let go.

Or may be when your favorite clothes are all tattered up, yet we love them and cling to them. They fade and block space in our wardrobes, preventing the freshness and brightness of new clothes!

We must accept growing up, growing old, fragile and weak also similarly. When we accept, we come in sync with reality and thats when we level up. We are then able to open the next door and move on ourselves.

Another way of looking at letting go is to making peace with our reality and accepting every event as gift and as an opportunity. May be the next best opportunity lies hidden in these sad and disheartening events.

Letting go is an emulsion of forgiveness and acceptance with some love and grace sprinkled on top. Its a dessert which we serve ourselves after a well earned hike. It adds sweetness to life and brings a new kind of freshness to the stale environment.

A seed passes from multiple, painful stages before it grows into a sapling, a small plant and then finally is able to bloom flowers. Those flowers also are not permanent and shrivel off, only to reveal the fruit and start the cycle all over again.

Impermanence paves the way for future and its endless potential...







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